October 15, 2012 by blogmasterjdeam
When your eyes are tired
the world is tired also.
When your vision has gone
no part of the world can find you.
Time to go into the dark
where the night has eyes
to recognize its own.
There you can be sure
you are not beyond love.
The dark will be your womb
The night will give you a horizon
further than you can see.
You must learn one thing:
the world was made to be free in.
Give up all the other worlds
except the one to which you belong.
Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
is too small for you.
~ David Whyte ~
Oh so very true . It is why some of us need what is called a SANGHA, also known as a like-minded community. A sangha is like an interactive classroom. If you are fortunate enough to have one, excellent! If not, who better than you to create one? I have a sangha made up of people from all over the place. I wish I had a regular meeting place (like I did in Taos,) but I do not. Instead I connect via email, telephone, the occasional cup of coffee, a good yoga class — wherever I can get my fix.
We become like those with whom we associate (parent lecture #301 — usually given to a teenager.) I think this applies for our entire lives. I think unless we REALLY are the mountain, the influence of our contemporaries (peers, if you are giving parent lecture #301) does set our course. If our friends are hitting the bar every night, so are we, right? Perhaps this is a sangha: drinking beer and talking about the eight limbs of yoga. It is not for me to judge, but I think you probably get where I’m going with this line of thought.
For me, it is vital I avoid the company of the cynical, the naysayer, and the skeptic because I know myself well enough to remember how easily I got pulled down that path earlier in life. Of course there are times when I have no choice but to interact with these folks. Here is where my practice comes into play: EVERYONE GETS TO HAVE A BAD HAIR DAY. Instead of judging the person as bad I will think, “oh, they’re just having a bad hair day.” We all get one here and there, so I’ll smile, say a kind word and go on about my business. This actually works. This practice allows me to hold another person in compassion, which makes me feel better. It allows me to remember: DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY. Someone having a bad day can’t possibly have anything to do with me — they don’t even know me. How could I possibly take something they say or do personally?
I see people do this in restaurants all the time. I see them short tip someone because they felt they had “bad service.” I have seen them unable to understand how someone could be having a bad day, and judge them unworthy of a decent tip. I have been that waitress.
So I will go about my day with the knowledge that everyone is doing the best they can with the knowledge they have. I will bless each being, smile and open my heart in love.
Yours in light and happiness, Chris