October 23, 2012 by blogmasterjdeam
Talk Of Tongue In Anger
In anger, whatever
The tongue utters,
May be loud to ear
But, are the words bitter.
Anger talks hot words,
Provokes and instigates,
Bitter the relationship
And happiness desolates.
Utter in anger un-pleases,
Heart beats increases,
Peace and patience seizes,
Emotions, controls un-eases.
Happiness lies in love,
Loving fetches the joy,
What you give same you take,
Anger or love receive back.
For happiness keep you normal,
Emotions and anger controllable,
Liquidate the ill thoughts,
And keep you hospitable.
~ S.D. TIWARI
For my entire life, anger has been an issue for me. I don’t know a time when it wasn’t. Yet today something happened that previously would have sent me into a tailspin. I dropped a crock pot filled with our cooked dinner. The dogs thought it was manna from heaven.
Normally I would have flown into a rage, but today I calmly picked up the mess and went on. It was only afterward I realized I hadn’t taken advantage of the huge repertoire of swear words I own. I wasn’t angry in the least, as a matter of fact I was humming that Don’t worry, be happy song while I cleaned up the mess.
Something has changed in me. I’m not saying I’m ready to go to Boulder and look for a free parking space, but I can definitely see I’m making progress on the path toward happiness/contentment/peace.
Anger, too, is part of Pratyahara:
Much of our emotional imbalance are our own creation. A person who is influenced by outside events and sensations can never achieve the inner peace and tranquility. This is because he or she will waste much mental and physical energy in trying to suppress unwanted sensations and to heighten other sensations. This will eventually result in a physical or mental imbalance, and will, in most instances, result in illness.
~ William J. D .Doran
One of the asanas that can help us through times of anger is the shoulder stand. Here is a video demonstrating it:
Please note, although not mentioned in this video, it is very important to maintain a slight curve in the neck while doing shoulder stand. Think of releasing the tongue and slightly lifting the chin in order to attain this slight curve.
Ultimately we must give up anger. It is only detrimental and benefits no one. Some think holding anger in instead of releasing it is dangerous to the health. Actually, letting it out may be healthier to the body, but when one is awake enough to see the damage our outbursts do to others, whatever benefit we might think we receive is erased. Again, we must develop techniques so that we never reach the state of anger. Anger, like resentment, and many other negative emotions cause us dis-ease.
People become so accustomed to living with anger it becomes habitual and addictive. Anger feeds more anger and causes more and more damage as it grows. We could liken anger to a wildfire. The more the fire is fed the bigger it grows, destroying everything in its path.
If we could make one change in our lives right now, in order to become more content, it is giving up anger. Don’t try to control it — do everything in your power to give it up.